Anat Periis the CEO and Founder of Training Camp for the Soul and renowned Creator and Master Facilitator of the TCS Method ignites a flame of change within those who are ready to actively choose a reclaimed existence in this world. With 18 years of experience in developmental work and years of study as a trauma-informed coach, Anat has beautifully combined mindset, somatic healing, and inner child re-parenting to create her unique, and massively needed, method. She has guided hundreds of individuals, practitioners, business owners, and their teams, through the TCS Method and created the kind of change that shapes the future of the world.
I wonder why spiritual gurus talk about letting go shit all the time.
How can I let go when there’s a pain in my heart?
How can I let go when my heart is broken into millions of pieces?
How can I let go when all I want is to resist the change and current circumstances?
I tell you that letting go is only possible when you feel the massive pain in your heart, when you feel the discomfort, and when there’s no exit, no escape, — what you’ve is just pain in your heart.
As I write this — I feel a huge pain in my heart. I’m allowing myself to feel this pain. It’s my choice because I choose to continue to live life with an open heart with an awake heart.
Living open-heartedly is so hard! It comes with a blessing and a curse.
Blessing is — you feel joy, happiness, and love — to the extreme.
The curse is — you get to feel the hurt to the extreme.
There is no need to rush through the pain. Let it be. Sit with it. Sit with the emptiness in it. There is a pain, isn’t it? Every pain has been the catalyst for growth in my life. The goal isn’t to get away from the pain — feel it completely, and cry if you want to, It will help you grieve and release it from your body.
Everything passes, everything. Nothing stays forever. There is joy and growth on the other side of the pain. I don’t think anyone can find joy in the pain. But, when you sit with it, the pain softens. You get to sit with the pain like it is your friend and when you feel like it, ask your friend — the pain —to leave. Because, your other friend, the growth is waiting for you. Don’t rush in this process. In those moments of pain, you might ask — “why it always happens, why can’t I feel joy.” It’s OK. Life is both suffering and joy. We get to have both.
When you feel pain — reach out to your support system to help you process emotions. You are not your emotions. Emotions may be telling you something about you that you may not have healed yet. Look at it objectively and never identify with it. Just say – “I am experiencing this”.
Your heart can be absolutely shattered and in sorrow, and you can continue on, you can grow, you can learn, you can find love in life. It’s a beautiful paradox of resilience of being both broken and whole at the same time, sad and hopeful, and devastated and generous. We are astonishing in our ability as human beings to hold profound experience that are seeming opposites at the same time.
[Maria explaining about one of her victim experiences and how it felt to her, how she overcame it, and practical practices]
Maria: I felt powerless. I felt small. I felt like I could at any moment be tossed another terrible thing that might bring me to my knees.
Holding a victim mentality is a very disempowering feeling. And I have great compassion for those of us who, like me, are kind of wired that way.
The opposite is also beautifully true, which is that letting go of the victim mentality and really taking ownership of one’s self and one’s choices. There’s tremendous goodness that grows from that. So. I think what I most want people to know is that the victim’s stance or mindset is not fixed.
It’s not true. It’s simply one quality or one perception of experience that can be changed and can be changed at any age. I had an awakening at the age of 29 when a trusted mentor of mine had a number of conversations with me about it.
The choices I was making were to always focus on the negative, to lead from painful thoughts, to be captivated by worry, and to notice the bad in a moment or the bad in another person. And I was quite capable of noticing the good, but I tended to lead from the bad. When he reflected that back to me, I felt like I had been presented with a very painful, but clear mirror of who I was.
That was the moment I was 29 years old — I decided I didn’t want to be that woman and so I spent quite a bit of time with him and with other mentors, and a therapist, and really discussing how you change your mindset from a predominantly negative pessimistic.
In my interview withScott Shute, I asked about the concept of Full Body Yes and how he beautifully explained the 4 stage process in it with an example. Scott Shute sits at the intersection of ancient wisdom traditions and the business world. He currently leads Mindfulness and Compassion programs at LinkedIn. After twenty five years of customer-oriented leadership roles, he found his dream job, where he gets to utilize his entire skill set and embrace his passions. In this work he explores the possibility of human potential, helping employees become the very best version of themselves.
Here it begins:
There is a four-part teaching arc that we go through.
1) The first stage is to really Know Yourself. You need to understand your own story, like understanding your body, why do I get upset, what do I act like when I get upset or happy or whatever it is, and understanding the external systems — who am I trained to please? When I make these decisions, who am I making these decisions for? And having a deep appreciation for your own story.
2) The second part is to Love Yourself, to see yourself as more than this body and this emotion, but to start to recognize that deepest part of yourself. And it’s that voice, that voice from that deepest part of you that we’re trying to listen to. This is where the message of the Full Body Yes comes from. But it’s that part of ourselves that we don’t access all that often.
“Every performance improvement anyone can want is on the other side of a better approach to the so-called negative emotions.”
“If you keep considering feelings your enemy, you are war with yourself. If you embrace your emotions as information, they become much more friendly. You actually reduce the odds of acting on them by making them explicit or conscious.”
Denise Shull is the CEO and Lead Performance Coach at the human performance and decision-making consultancy, The ReThink Group Inc. Leveraging her unique combination of expertise in Neuroeconomics and Modern Psychoanalysis she has developed The Shull Method™ a unique approach to mental skills which prioritizes emotion in the pursuit of peak performance and the resolution of psychological roadblocks.
After working at IBM, Ms. Shull’s Wall Street career began in 1994 when she traded at one of the first E-trading firms in Chicago. She moved to Schonfeld Securities before being invited to run a desk in NYC in 1997. She founded ReThink in 2003 and continued to trade financial futures through her membership at the Chicago Board of Trade through 2009.
Her 2012 book, Market Mind Games: A Radical Psychology of Investing, Trading and Risk has been reviewed as the “best of its genre” and a “veritable Rosetta Stone of trading psychology.” In 2015, Shull was invited to consult with the writers on Showtime’s drama BILLIONS and in 2016 Bloomberg Tradebook released the Trader Brain Exercise based on ReThink’s IP. In 2017, Shull and ReThink delivered HEADSx, a robust talent assessment tool used by select hedge funds to hire exceptional talent. In 2018, her work with Olympian Lindsey Jacobellis was featured in the New York Times.
A highly engaging speaker, Shull has delivered talks at NASCAR’s Hendrick MotorSports, Ontario Teachers’ Pension Plan, MIT, US Ski and Snowboard Association, Harvard Business School, CFA Societies and Leaders in Sport among others. In 2019, Shull is featured on REAL VISION – the disruptive financial TV start-up. She has also appeared on CNBC’s Halftime Report and Squawk Box both in the US and Asia. FORBES, WSJ, FT, Bloomberg Markets, and New York Times’ Dealbook have run profiles on her while FOX Business, Bloomberg, Cavuto, PBS and The Discovery Channel have also invited her commentary.
She holds a Master of Arts in neuropsychoanalysis (1995) from The University of Chicago. Her thesis research, “The Neurobiology of Freud’s Theory of the Repetition Compulsion,” was republished in 2003 in the Annals of Modern Psychoanalysis and was cited in 2013 as one of the first papers written in neuropsychoanalysis. She is also a 2009 alumnus of Harvard’s Kennedy School Executive Education program, Investment Decisions and Behavioral Finance.
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Nina Paul is a mindfulness instructor for adults and teens. She has taught workshops in Virginia, led courses for teens in the Fairfax County school system, and is a Lecturer of Mindfulness at the George Washington University in Washington, DC, working with college students, staff, and faculty to incorporate fundamentals of mindfulness into their everyday lives.
Nina has received training in Mindfulness through UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center, Mindful Schools, the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction -Teens (MBSR-T) program, and the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine. She is trained to teach mindfulness to youth through the .b Mindfulness for Teens Curriculum certification (UK), Mindful Schools K-12th curriculum training and MINDS INC’s High School Mindfulness Curriculum Training. Nina is also a Practitioner in Training through the EFT Universe.
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Between the period of 1994 and 1997, you were working as a Montessori teacher, educating children on being aware of their bodies to understand themselves.Could you elaborate on that experience of yourself?
How did you raise your own children and what was your parenting style?
How old were you when you entered into therapy?
After you went into therapy, what changes or breakthroughs did you observe in your own self?
What advice would you give to someone who maybe looking for a therapist?
At what point in your life did you enter into mindfulness space?
What was the underlying cause of your anxiety and distress? Was there any childhood connection?
I want to touch upon healing modalities. You have been in therapy for a while. So what different healing modalities have you tried or practiced on your own?
How do we practice Emotional Freedom Tapping(EFT) technique?
Could you describe about your meditation practice now? How much time do you spend in your meditation every day?
You mentioned that you manage your stress well now. What is your relationship with stress?
You are also an emotional resilience coach. So how do you help people?
You are also a lecturer of mindfulness at the George Washington university in Washington, DC. So what does a lecturer of mindfulness do?
Could you recommend some resources in terms of books, blogs, or online resources to live a calm better life?
And, much more
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