Your heart can be absolutely shattered and in sorrow, and you can continue on, you can grow, you can learn, you can find love in life. It’s a beautiful paradox of resilience of being both broken and whole at the same time, sad and hopeful, and devastated and generous. We are astonishing in our ability as human beings to hold profound experience that are seeming opposites at the same time.
[Maria explaining about one of her victim experiences and how it felt to her, how she overcame it, and practical practices]
Maria: I felt powerless. I felt small. I felt like I could at any moment be tossed another terrible thing that might bring me to my knees.
Holding a victim mentality is a very disempowering feeling. And I have great compassion for those of us who, like me, are kind of wired that way.
The opposite is also beautifully true, which is that letting go of the victim mentality and really taking ownership of one’s self and one’s choices. There’s tremendous goodness that grows from that. So. I think what I most want people to know is that the victim’s stance or mindset is not fixed.
It’s not true. It’s simply one quality or one perception of experience that can be changed and can be changed at any age. I had an awakening at the age of 29 when a trusted mentor of mine had a number of conversations with me about it.
The choices I was making were to always focus on the negative, to lead from painful thoughts, to be captivated by worry, and to notice the bad in a moment or the bad in another person. And I was quite capable of noticing the good, but I tended to lead from the bad. When he reflected that back to me, I felt like I had been presented with a very painful, but clear mirror of who I was.
That was the moment I was 29 years old — I decided I didn’t want to be that woman and so I spent quite a bit of time with him and with other mentors, and a therapist, and really discussing how you change your mindset from a predominantly negative pessimistic.
In this interview post, I sat down with Dr. Jacinta M. Jiménez (also known as “Dr. J”) an award-winning Psychologist and Board-Certified Leadership Coach with a 15+ year career dedicated to the betterment of leaders. She has worked with individuals in top organizations in Silicon Valley and throughout the world.
“Your worth is not measured by your productivity”.
“Let go or be dragged”
Dr. Jacinta M. Jiménez (also known as “Dr. J”) is an award-winning Psychologist and Board-Certified Leadership Coach with a 15+ year career dedicated to the betterment of leaders. She has worked with individuals in top organizations in Silicon Valley and throughout the world. A graduate of Stanford University as well as the PGSP-Stanford PsyD Consortium, Dr. J is a sought-after expert in bridging the fields of psychology and leadership. She contributes to national news and TV outlets, including CNN/HLN, Business Insider, Forbes, Fast Company, Oprah, and Bloomberg.
As the former Global Head of Coaching at BetterUp, she was a key leader in the development of ground-breaking science-backed coaching approaches for helping today’s top organizations, while also leading a global community of 1500+ international Leadership Coaches in over 58 countries. Her new book, The Burnout Fix, covers the topic of resilience, sustainable success, and peak performance at work. Dr. J holds a certificate in Diversity & Inclusion from Cornell University and provides consultation on topics related to this important topic as well.
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Nina Paul is a mindfulness instructor for adults and teens. She has taught workshops in Virginia, led courses for teens in the Fairfax County school system, and is a Lecturer of Mindfulness at the George Washington University in Washington, DC, working with college students, staff, and faculty to incorporate fundamentals of mindfulness into their everyday lives.
Nina has received training in Mindfulness through UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center, Mindful Schools, the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction -Teens (MBSR-T) program, and the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine. She is trained to teach mindfulness to youth through the .b Mindfulness for Teens Curriculum certification (UK), Mindful Schools K-12th curriculum training and MINDS INC’s High School Mindfulness Curriculum Training. Nina is also a Practitioner in Training through the EFT Universe.
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Between the period of 1994 and 1997, you were working as a Montessori teacher, educating children on being aware of their bodies to understand themselves.Could you elaborate on that experience of yourself?
How did you raise your own children and what was your parenting style?
How old were you when you entered into therapy?
After you went into therapy, what changes or breakthroughs did you observe in your own self?
What advice would you give to someone who maybe looking for a therapist?
At what point in your life did you enter into mindfulness space?
What was the underlying cause of your anxiety and distress? Was there any childhood connection?
I want to touch upon healing modalities. You have been in therapy for a while. So what different healing modalities have you tried or practiced on your own?
How do we practice Emotional Freedom Tapping(EFT) technique?
Could you describe about your meditation practice now? How much time do you spend in your meditation every day?
You mentioned that you manage your stress well now. What is your relationship with stress?
You are also an emotional resilience coach. So how do you help people?
You are also a lecturer of mindfulness at the George Washington university in Washington, DC. So what does a lecturer of mindfulness do?
Could you recommend some resources in terms of books, blogs, or online resources to live a calm better life?
And, much more
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Debbie Millman : Named “one of the most creative people in business” by Fast Company, and “one of the most influential designers working today” by Graphic Design USA, Debbie Millman is also an author, educator, curator and host of the podcast Design Matters. As the founder and host of Design Matters, one of the world’s first and longest running podcasts, Millman has interviewed nearly 500 artists, designers and cultural commentators over the past 14 years. Debbie has interviewed guests including Tim Ferriss, Malcolm Gladwell, Marina Abramovic, Steven Pinker, Shepard Fairey, Laurie Anderson, Barbara Kruger, Amanda Palmer, Alain de Botton, Brene Brown, Hamilton Director Thomas Kail, and many, many more.
Debbie is the author of six books, including two collections of interviews that have extended the ethos and editorial vision of Design Matters to the printed page: How to Think Like a Great Graphic Designer and Brand Thinking and Other Noble Pursuits. Both books have been published in over 10 languages. She is the author of two books of illustrated essays: Look Both Ways and Self-Portrait As Your Traitor; the latter of which has been awarded a Gold Mobius, a Print Typography Award, and a medal from the Art Directors Club. Her artwork from these books have been included in the Boston Biennale, Chicago Design Museum, Anderson University, School of Visual Arts, Long Island University, The Wolfsonion Museum, the Czong Institute for Contemporary Art and more.
Debbie’s illustrations have appeared in publications such as The New York Times, New York Magazine, Print Magazine, Design Observer and Fast Company. In 2009 Debbie co-founded the world’s first graduate program in branding at the School of Visual Arts in New York City. Now in its ninth year, the program has achieved international acclaim.
Debbie is currently working with Law & Order SVUactor and activist Mariska Hargitay’s Joyful Heart Foundation to eradicate sexual assault, domestic violence, child abuse and the rape-kit backlog.
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You graduated in 1983, and you were majored in English and you had a minor in Russian literature. So I want to ask you, did you speak Russian or did you write or both?
What do you love about Russian literature?
How have you stayed in your team in 2020 during coronavirus? How were you hopeful in 2020?
Do you still have the dog Duff?
Whenever challenges come in our life. How do you cultivate the art of being thankful and grateful? Does it come naturally to you or do you have to practice on a constant basis?
What makes a good therapist and what is your relationship with therapy these days?
What is it that resonate with you the most with your therapy?
What is your frequency of visiting your therapist per week per month?
At what point did you realize that you needed to work on yourself in terms of emotional wellbeing or working with a therapist?
Did you ask your friend that what makes others or him feel jealous of you?
Do you have any advice or recommendation for somebody who is afraid of finding a therapist or seeking therapy to uncover the layers in their life?
What does your self-talk look like whenever you go through those obstacles? What do you tell yourself?
What are your practices to be optimistic, hopeful, and resilient?
How would you spouse Roxanne gay would describe of what do you do for a living.
What were your first few days of dating with Roxanne like?
How did you ask her for the first date? What did you tell her to go on a first date with you?
How do you find balance between showing your masculinity at your workplace and being feminine in your personal life, in your relationship, in your romantic relationship?
how do you communicate your differences or unpleasant emotions and feelings with your partner? If that happens?
Do you have any process or mental framework to process your grief or sadness?
Could you share any good memories from your childhood?
You got remarried in 2020, what does this love feel like to you in your fifties?
What do you think makes a great relationship work? (compatibility)
How do you create that white space in your everyday life to be more creative and seek joy and fulfillment?
What kind of practices do you have in your everyday life to seek joy, fulfillment fun? What concrete practices do you have?
What is the most important aspect for someone’s growth and creativity?
Do you ever fear of not being able to repeat your success?
What is your emotional critical need in the upcoming years? What do you think you are most excited about?
This show is about helping you live a fulfilled life and my job on this show is to sit with the world class experts to extract the practices, routines and habits to help you live a fulfilled and abundant life. For any question, please contact me.
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I received my MA from Boston College where I studied Counseling Psychology. I then began my doctoral training at George Washington University with an emphasis on Adult Psychotherapy from a psychoanalytic perspective. Upon completion of my doctoral studies, I completed my internship and post-doctoral fellowship training at two inpatient psychiatric hospitals in the Boston area. There, I worked with people who were suffering from the most severe and retractable forms of mental illness.
Those experiences taught me the deep and enduring value of comprehensive and collaborative care from a multi-disciplinary perspective. I carry those lessons with me to my current work in my private practice, where I emphasize and utilize my partnerships with physicians, naturopaths, and functional medicine doctors and nutritionists to provide the best standard of care. In addition to my psychology training, I’ve studied extensively the use of mindfulness, functional medicine, hormones, and how food, medicine, and mood are interconnected.
My influences include Dr.’s Hyman, Benson, Kabat-Zinn, Maté, Gervais, and Gordon, as well as Tara Brach, Brené Brown, Irvin Yalom, Howard Stern, Steven Kotler, and Bruce Springsteen, to name only a few.
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What kind of values do you talk about with your son? Or what kind of conversations do you have with your son to inculcate all these practices?
Learning from modeling others
Turning pain into energy, turn fear into energy because cause life will cripple you if you don’t.
Could you share any memorable story from your teenage years or anything that comes to your mind?
Describing about her Junior high school headmaster
Did you ever talk about your disengagement and your attitude in your family?
How do you appreciate and encourage your son because you definitely didn’t grow up in that environment?
What is your personal relationship with risk now?
In 2016 and 2016, what moved you to take risks and changes?
Did you always want to be a clinical psychologist or what events were leading up to that?
What set of emotional skills do you teach or recommend to them to master certain areas of their lives?
Could you recommend us some concrete practices in the umbrella of self regulation and mindfulness?
Diaphragmatic breathing, Mindfulness, Sleep
How do I observe myself? What should I do?
How to sit in meditation and observe your Revelations with yourself
I would love to ask you about your personal practices in the umbrella of mindfulness and self-regulation
What kind of questions do you ask yourself at this moment in your life, at present in your life?
What does a sense of wellness look like to you personally?
Listening to pain
What are the healthy ways to cope with pain and unpleasant emotions and how do you deal with it? How do you process these emotional patterns in your life?
On getting good sleep and its benefits and relationship with sleep
Somebody is not sure how to tackle all this problems. Should they go to a therapist, to a performance coach, to a flow coach? Where should people go?
Could you share what is flow? How do they get into flow?
Do you live your life by any quote or any life philosophy?
What is the specific impact to you on to leave on this world?
and much more
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“Things change so quickly and it’s really about incremental changes that have a lasting difference to make the world better.”
-Marisa
Dr. Marisa Porges is known for her work on gender and education, leadership, and national security and is the author of What Girls Need: How to Raise Bold, Courageous, and Resilient Women(Viking Press, 2020). She is currently the eighth Head of School of The Baldwin School, a 130-year-old all-girls school outside of Philadelphia, that is renowned for academic excellence and preparing girls to be leaders and changemakers. She is an alumna of Baldwin and personally understands the power of its approach to educating girls: it provided the foundation for her own military service and work on national security and foreign affairs.
Prior to joining Baldwin, Dr. Porges was a leading counterterrorism and national security expert. Most recently, she served in the Obama White House as a senior policy advisor and White House Fellow at the National Economic Council, where she oversaw the development of domestic cybersecurity and consumer protection policies. She also has served as a research fellow at Harvard Kennedy School and at the Council on Foreign Relations, where her research focused on counterterrorism. In these roles, she traveled alone throughout the Middle East and Afghanistan to conduct research, interview former members of Al Qaeda and the Taliban, meet with Syrian rebel fighters in hiding, and serve as an embedded civilian advisor at NATO military headquarters in Afghanistan. She also worked as a counterterrorism policy advisor in the U.S. Department of Treasury and as a foreign affairs advisor in the U.S. Department of Defense. In all these roles, she stood out as one of a few – if not the only – women present, at any given time.
Dr. Porges started her career on active duty in the U.S. Navy, flying jets off carriers as a naval flight officer on EA-6B Prowlers. Ten years after the Navy first allowed women to fly jets into combat, she pursued her dream of being launched off an aircraft carrier while serving her country. She earned a B.A. in geophysics from Harvard, an MSc from the London School of Economics, and a PhD in war studies from King’s College London. Her awards include the National Committee on American Foreign Policy 21st Century Leader Award and the NATO Medal for service in Afghanistan. Dr. Porges lives outside of Philadelphia, with her family.
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This show is about helping you live a fulfilled life and my job on this show is to sit with the world class experts to extract the practices, routines and habits to help you live a fulfilled and abundant life. For any question, please contact me.
If you have enjoyed listening to my podcasts, please subscribe to the new podcast updates on Itunes please provide your reviews on Itunes which will really help me. Subscribe to the Newsletter. You won’t be spammed! I hate spams too! You will receive only one email every Friday on the latest published podcasts.
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“You can never step in the same river twice because the river’s not the same, nor is the man.”
-Anthony
Anthony Trucks is a former NFL Athlete, American Ninja Warrior on NBC, international speaker, and the founder of Identity Shift coaching. He uses cutting edge science and psychology to upgrade how you operate so you can elevate your life and business to reach your full potential. After being given away into foster care at 3 years old, losing his NFL career to injury -he learned how to shift at a very young age, and now his life mission is teaching others how to Make Shift Happen in their lives.
He teaches people the power of using their identity to start attaining their most ambitious desires. He created The Shift Method, A process and a company focused on helping people close their “Identity Gaps” that are responsible for the shortfalls in their potential and lack of success. It’s time to Make Shift Happen.
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How would your three children describe what you do for a living?
Any memorable story you have from your childhood?
How did you cultivate that self-awareness as a kid
Could you tell us what goals you were after in your childhood?
What lessons did you learn in your childhood?
Lessons from the football
Practices to cultivate joy
On creating happiness
Creating life rhythm – SHIFT method
Creating plan and working forward to execute
Do you feel overwhelmed? If yes. What do you do to overcome out of your overwhelm?
What is your physical workout routine these?
Do you have any specific morning routine that you stick to?
We are a tree. We can produce any kind of fruit when we provide good nutrients.
Attached to nothing
If somebody is struggling to find their purpose and not sure about their meaning in the life, what would you suggest or what advice would you give to somebody?
Seeking balance?
Do you include any spiritual component or aspect in that natural rhythm?
Do you see any gap in the identity shift for the people who may not be able to achieve what they want?
How can we identify our identity and then align that identity with what we want, what are the tools and practices?
and much more
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