Wholeness and Healing Trauma – The Blog of Nishant Garg

Loving, Growing, and Healing together in Relationships

Dear friends, I’ve been contemplating the below musings from different authors including mine to heal and grow in dating, romantic relationships, and all kinds of relationships. This blog post is brought to you by my new co-creation of a spiritual retreat from Oct 7th-Oct 9th 2022. You can check the details at Immersive Retreat – From Admiration to Inspiration. Let’s begin…

“There is no shortage of people who ended a new relationship with great potential because they were unconsciously attached to perfection. Running away when slight friction occurs is a sign of being emotionally unprepared. Great relationships are built, they don’t come ready-made.” –Yung Pueblo

“Dating/Relationships is a skill. It’s like any other skill in life which takes time, effort, and patience. Sometimes we see a successful person doing horribly in their personal relationships, and vice versa. When we see someone with an amazing relationship, it means they’ve developed this skill over time, and continually cultivate it.”

“I was reminded that what we resist persists. My intuitive guide, Sabrina Heartsong, prompted me to perhaps consider that this relationship was showing up in my life in such a way as to teach me how to stay in the flow and learn something that life was so gracefully presenting. She told me my relationship with this man had manifested itself exactly the way I energetically attracted it. The universe was showing me the areas in my life that still needed healing.” – Waleuska Lazo

Dr. Margaret Paul — Inner Bonding Process, Wounded Self and Loving Adult, Conversations with Inner-Child, Creating a Lasting and Loving Relationship, Accessing Spiritual Guidance (#201)

MARGARET PAUL is a bestselling author, popular MindBodyGreen writer and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, and the related SelfQuest® self-healing online program – recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette.

Dr. Paul is the author/co-author of several best-selling books, including Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids?, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Dr. Paul’s books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into eleven languages. She holds a PhD in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars since 1967.

Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples throughout the world — mostly on the phone. She is able to access spiritual Guidance during her sessions, which enables her to work with people wherever they are in the world. Her current passion is working on and developing content for this Website, as well as distributing SelfQuest®, the software program that teaches Inner Bonding® and is donated to prisons and schools, as well as sold to the general public.

Margaret is passionate about helping people rapidly heal the root cause of their pain and learn the path to joy and loving relationships. In her spare time, Margaret loves to paint, make pottery, take photos, watch birds, read, ride horses, and spend time with her grandchildren.

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Resources/Books from Margaret:

Free Ebook The 4 Mistakes that Block Self-Love and Relationships
The Inner Bonding Workbook

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Beth Tyson — Childhood Trauma Consultant and Mental Health Educator (#197)

“All the treatment in the world won’t be enough for a child who returns to a home or school with dysregulated adults.”

“A child who can show you his rage does not think you are an easy target, he thinks you are someone who won’t abandon him”.
Beth Tyson

Beth Tyson, MA, is a psychotherapist, childhood grief and trauma expert, and a children’s book author. She earned several years of experience as a clinician working with children and families and as a teaching assistant in the graduate program for counseling psychology at Eastern University.

While practicing as a trauma therapist within the child welfare system, Beth earned her certificate in adoption from Rutgers University. Beth is a CASA advisory board member and a Voices for Children Coalition partner, advocating for youth in the foster care system in Delaware County, PA. Beth uses her expertise in childhood trauma to help families and organizations operate from a trauma-sensitive and healing-centered approach. She helps her clients understand the biological impact of trauma on the brain and autonomic nervous system.

Beth is a mental health educator who uses trauma-responsive models to implement the skills necessary for the emotional well-being of children impacted by trauma and other adverse childhood experiences (ACES). She provides educational training to schools, workplaces, non-profit organizations, caregivers/families, among others.

In the last year, Beth was featured in Forbes, InStyle, PsychReg.org, PsychCentral.com, The United Ways of CA, RVN TV, BYU Radio, and many other media outlets advocating for foster and kinship families impacted by trauma and loss. Beth’s tender-hearted children’s book A Grandfamily for Sullivan is about a koala who is suddenly raised by his grandma when his parents are unable to keep him safe. Her book is a tool for parents and professionals to help children cope with BIG emotions after trauma and adversity.

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Jon Macaskill on Positive Effects of Mindfulness, Cultivating Calm and Peace, Confined Masculinity, Healing through Therapy and Psychedelics, and More(#194)

Jon Macaskill is a retired Navy SEAL Commander turned leadership and mindfulness coach. During his 24-year Navy career, he served in multiple highly dynamic leadership positions from the battlefield to the operations center and the board room. His style of teaching leadership is unconventional yet highly effective. He is passionate about helping people and organizations become the best versions of themselves through mindfulness coaching, keynote speaking, and grit and resilience training.

After graduating high school, he served briefly as an enlisted sailor in the US Navy before receiving an appointment to the US Naval Academy and graduating from there with a BS in mathematics 4 years later. Jon served in Iraq, Afghanistan, off the coast of Somalia, and in Panama.

After retiring, he served briefly as the Deputy Executive Director for the veteran nonprofit, Veteran’s PATH. He now runs a podcast called Men Talking Mindfulness; does keynote speaking engagements on developing leadership, grit, and resilience; and owns his own consulting company, Macaskill Consulting, LLC. In all three roles, his desire is to improve cultures and individuals through mindfulness, meditation, vulnerability, and compassion.

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IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: Psychedelic plants and compounds are illegal in many countries, and even possession can carry severe criminal penalties. None of this post constitutes medical advice or should be construed as a recommendation to use psychedelics. There are serious legal, psychological, and physical risks. Psychedelics are not for everyone—they can exacerbate certain emotional problems, and there have been, in very rare cases, fatalities.

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Deirdre Fay — Clearing the “Stuff”, Becoming Safely Embodied, Your Protest is the Key, Attachment Theory, Integrating Sorrow and Aligning Life, and More (#191)

“What would ease feel like in my body?”

“TRAUMA HAPPENS IN RELATIONSHIPS…And it is in relationships that we have to heal.”
Deirdre

Deirdre Fay, MSW decades of experience explores the intersection of trauma, attachment, yoga, and meditation, teaching “a radically positive approach to healing trauma.”

She has 35 years of experience as a psychotherapist and educator exploring practical ways of how transformation occurs. Her approach is called a radically positive approach to healing trauma. Her message resonates deeply with those who may look successful on the surface, but internally feel plagued by shame, anxiety, distress, depression – wondering why they’re stuck in repeating relational and life patterns.

Her third book Becoming Safely Embodied (2021) became a best-seller

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Book: Becoming Safely Embodied: A Guide to Organize Your Mind, Body and Heart to Feel Secure in the World

Safely Embodied offerings: https://safelyembodied.lpages.co/offerings/

Dr. Gail Brenner — Be Empty of the Exhausting Story of “Me”, The End of Self-Help, Conscious Life and Embodied Living, Suffering Is Optional, Healing from Early Trauma, and More (#189)

“Suffering is optional“
Dr. Gail

Dr. Gail Brenner, Ph.D. is a psychologist, author, speaker, and lover of truth with a fire that burns brightly. She is an expert in healing from early trauma and brings years of experience with individuals and groups. Her work lovingly illuminates our everyday humanness with the deepest spiritual truths, and she is known for creating the safe space needed for inner exploration.

Gail has special expertise working with older adults and their families in the transitions of aging, death, and dying. She was an assistant clinical professor at the University of California San Francisco where she trained physicians and maintained a clinical practice. She has published numerous professional articles on coping with stress and chronic medical illness and is the author of the award-winning The End of Self-Help and Suffering Is Optional. She loves healthy living and exploring different cultures through international volunteering.

She received her B.A. from Carnegie-Mellon University and her Ph.D. from Temple University. She completed a post-doctoral fellowship at the University of Florida and a clinical internship at the Veteran’s Administration Hospital in Palo Alto, CA. She has special expertise working with older adults and their families, bringing clear seeing and compassion to the transitions of aging, death, and dying. As a member of the clinical faculty at the University of California, San Francisco, she helped physicians develop communication skills and learn to address psychosocial issues with their patients. She has authored numerous published articles on coping with stress and chronic medical illness. And she has consulted with staff of assisted living and skilled nursing facilities about aging, dementia, and caregiving and given presentations to the community at large on these topics.

Check online 5-session course with Gail Brenner, Deep Trauma Healing: Finding Ease and Well-Being in Everyday Life

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Katherine Woodward Thomas — Conscious Uncoupling, Effects of Attachment and Childhood Wounds, Calling in “The One”, Deeper Dimensions of Relational Patterns, and More (#188)

“With all of the darkness you may be walking through, it’s good to remember that where there is no light, you have the choice to become it.”

“Love is unconditional, but relationships are not.”
Katherine Woodward Thomas

Katherine Woodward Thomas is the New York Times bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After and Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attracting the Love of Your Life as well as an award-winning marriage and family psychotherapist. She’s also the creator of the Conscious Uncoupling process made known by Gwyneth Paltrow and introduced a more conscious, creative and respectful way to transition out of a primary love relationship.

Katherine also trains and certifies people to become Certified Calling in “The One” Coaches and/or Conscious Uncoupling Coaches and provides ongoing supervision and development to a vibrant community of her coaches from around the world.

Over the past two decades, Katherine has had the honor of teaching hundreds of thousands of people from all corners of the globe to create conscious, loving relationships and to realize the higher potentials all their connections hold for health and happiness. Katherine is a featured teacher with the international transformational educational giant, Mindvalley, and she’s appeared multiple times on The Today Show with Savannah Guthrie, been written about in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The London Times, and many other media outlets as well as being a featured guest on Maria Shriver’s Architects of Change series.

In her spare time, she loves to sing, play the flute and write lyrics. She’s a Billboard-charting, #1 iTunes jazz artist with her CD, Lucky in Love which was co-written and co-produced with The Koren Brothers.

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Mark Coleman — From Suffering to Peace, Freedom from the Inner Critic, Recognizing Pre-Verbal Traumas, Finding Peace in the Body, Mind, Heart and World, and More (#185)

Mark Coleman is an inner and outer explorer, who has devotedly studied mindfulness meditation practices for three decades. He is passionate about sharing the power of meditation and has taught mindfulness workshops and meditation retreats in six continents for the past twenty years. Mark is a senior meditation teacher at Spirit Rock Meditation Center and has taught there since 2000. Mark holds a MA in Clinical Psychology and draws on his extensive experience in working with people as a therapist and coach.

Through the Mindfulness Training Institute Mark leads Professional Mindfulness Teacher Trainings in the US and UK annually. Mark likes to share the fruits of meditation to wider audiences and founded The Mindfulness Institute, where he has brought mindfulness training programs to companies and the nonprofit sector across North America and Europe. Mark is a trainer for the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute, developed at Google and teaches on their teacher trainings.

Mark is an unabashed nature lover and, through his organization Awake in the Wild, he shares his passion for integrating meditation and nature. He leads wilderness meditation retreats from Alaska to Peru, taking people on inner and outdoor adventures. Through Awake in the Wild, Mark also leads year-long meditation-in-nature teacher trainings in the US.

Mark is the author of From Suffering to Peace: The True Promise of Mindfulness, Make Peace with Your Mind: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Help Free You from the Inner Critic and Awake in the Wild: Mindfulness in Nature as a Path of Self-Discovery.

Mark lives in Marin County, California and enjoys spending his free time hiking, biking and kayaking.

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