How do you define success for yourself? I’ve been very curious to know how people define success for themselves. I started the podcast in 2020 with the clear intention of building skills and relationships with people, and I’d say that I am super successful as I’ve been achieving what I wanted based on my intention.
In my quest to learn more about how people define success — I’ve asked several of my podcast guests about it and read other articles and quotes on the web. This post is a short compilation of podcast interviews and selected quotes that I’ve struck me deeply.
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“Excerpt from Maria Popova, founder of Brain Pickings: “…I frequently get emails from young people starting out and asking, ‘How do I make a successful website or start my own thing?’ And, very often, it’s tied to some measure of success that’s audience-based or reach-based.’ How do you build up to seven million readers a month or two million Facebook fans?’ But the work is not about how to get that size of an audience or those numbers. That’s just the byproduct of what Lewis Hyde calls ‘creative labor,’ which is really our inner drive. The real work is how not to hang your self-worth, your sense of success and merits, the fullness of your heart, and the stability of your soul on those numbers—on that constant positive reinforcement and external validation. That’s the only real work, and the irony is that the more “successful” you get, by either your own standards or external standards, the harder it is to decouple all of those inner values from your work. I think we often confuse the doing for the being.”
The theme of Belonging has shown up for me over and over in 2022. I’ve asked myself questions such as who am I? What am I? Where do I belong? Who are my true genuine friends? in exploring the landspaces of inner being and authenticity.
Who better to know more about belonging than Brené Brown. In this post, I mention some powerful quotes from her and 2 youtube videos that have made a huge impact on me and how I show up at work and personally. As always, I am sharing what I am called to do.
Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston, where she holds the Huffington Foundation Endowed Chair at the Graduate College of Social Work. Brené is also a visiting professor in management at the University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business.
“The thing is that we are wired to be a part of something bigger than us so deeply, that sometimes we will take fitting as a substitute, but actually fitting in is the greatest barrier to belonging because fitting in says, ‘Be like them to be accepted.’ Belonging says, ‘This is who I am. I hope we can make a connection,”
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
“As it turns out, men and women who have the deepest sense of true belonging are people who also have the courage to stand alone when called to do that. They are willing to maintain their integrity and risk disconnection in order to stand up for what they believe in.”
Endings are always hard. Trust me, I’ve had to end many things internally and externally in 2022. I found this fantastic article The Art of Ending: 3 Steps for Pruning Your Life and I’ve read it dozens of times. Below is an excerpt from this article which I personally read over and over.
“Our lives are very similar to this rose bush. They are often filled with so many good things; so many opportunities, commitments, endeavors, and relationships that we are overwhelmed. Our resources are stretched, and nothing, or no one, is getting our full attention. In most areas, we are surviving, not thriving. What would happen if we were to prune back some of the good for sake of the best?
“So, too, does this happen in our lives. We limp along with broken relationships, hang onto toxic habits, and linger in commitments that deplete us physically or emotionally. It feels as though all of our energy is being diverted to sustain parts of our life that are not meeting our hopes and expectations. Essentially, the season of possibility for these buds has passed. What would happen if we were to get out our shears, and extract the parts of our life that are no longer giving us the results they once did, or are never going to amount to anything no matter how much we try?
Dear Fear — “I hear you, I understand you and I know that you’re trying to protect me. I don’t need your protection now. My heart is open. My old wounds are healing. I just want you to be a good friend and not run my life. I hope you understand my sentiments. It’s been so long and we needed to have this conversation with you.
Today, I’m practicing saying thank you to my fears for serving me, meeting my needs, and keeping me safe. Now, I lovingly ask you to leave me and I let go of all my fears because I don’t need you anymore. Thank you for serving me this long effectively.”
“We are all faced with a choice when we wake up in the morning — will we choose to live our lives in fear or faith? Then we step out into the world where good and evil battle every day. It is the charge of each one of us to bring light and love into the world and we do this through every thought and interaction we have on a daily basis.” —Scarlett Lewis
“Buddha was asked what have you gained from meditation? He replied – nothing! However, let me tell you what I lost: anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, fear of death”.
I’ve been contemplating these quotes on clear communication, healing emotional triggers, awakening, stepping into a universe of possibility, deep connections, and much more. Please enjoy.
“If something you want is slow to come to you, it can only be for one reason: You are spending more time focused upon its absence than you are about its presence.” – Abraham Hicks
You can not build a deep connection with someone who’s disconnected from themselves. –Yung Pueblo
When triggers happen they change our mood. They change our behavior and our state of mind. Many of us walk around in a continuously triggered state causing us to see the world through clogged filters. And when we can’t see clearly we find it hard to make decisions and do behavior from a place of clarity. We get into a situation, get triggered, then blame the other person for our triggers. In reality, my triggers were mine, and I needed to process and release them before ever having the ability to be there for her with compassion. – Paul Colaianni
When I awoke into my infinite self, I was amazed to understand that my life could be dramatically different just by realizing that I am Love, and I always have been. I don’t have to do anything to deserve it. Understanding this means that I am working with life force energy, whereas performing at being loving is working against it. Realizing that I am in love was the most important lesson I learned, allowing me to realize all fear, and that’s the key that saved my life. – Anita Moorijani
I love exploring open-ended questions for deep inquiry. The same questions give different answers in different contexts and at different stages of life. To get quality answers, you get to ask good-quality questions. I found the below questions from different sources. If you know me, I love to share whenever I learn something exciting. I’d love to hear from you dear reader what explorations you experience through this set of questions and please put them in the comments for everyone.
a) How would I show up(in every arena) if there’s no lack and everything is in abundance? I apply this question mostly in my dating and relationships. Lack exists at the mind/ego level. The heart only knows abundance.
This blog post is the result of sitting in silence in the mornings, reading other people’s blogs and posts. In this post, I attempt to highlight some of my writings and others. I hope this piece will spark a passion in your inner-being and open up new passion and possibilities. I hope you learn to trust your instincts and sit with the discomfort when things fall apart. Let’s begin.
“When things fall apart when the plan doesn’t work out, and when you don’t get what you want — it’s OK to feel sad and allow yourself to feel the sadness. Don’t push it away and don’t beat the shit out of you. Then, you can focus on your intention, and your next steps, and connect to the vibrational frequency of your desire.”
“Remember that darkness is a source of massive growth. You may not see in the moments of darkness but remember that light always follows the darkness.”
“Trust is such an important aspect of intuition. You may not always 100 percent believe every one of your decisions is going to work out, but can you trust that you are doing the right thing? Can you tap into the core of the heart, where trust is nestled, and let go, close your eyes, and fly?” – Molly Carroll
“I used to be a poor listener. But over the past several years, I have taken more of a listening role. It’s powerful, insightful, and even healing. I have been practicing this – Instead of feeling like I have to share everything that pertains to someone else’s story or comment, I withhold. And I try to fully understand their experience, presently. I do so because I am learning that proving myself or whatever motive I have to share, does not take away from what I have or my experience.” – Candice Georgis
As I’m taking a deep dive into certain areas of my life, why I do, what I do, who I’ve become, and who am I becoming — I’ve been asking myself some questions in different contexts such as vocation, love, and relationships, friendships, podcast, etc. These questions can be applied in any context I believe. I’m glad to share those questions in this post. If you think these are irrelevant to you, please disregard them, and you might reconsider these at a later point.
The quality of our life depends on the quality of questions we ask ourselves. When we listen to life, when we listen to that softer inner voice — we usually listen to the calling, the unanswered questions, the unexplored territory. Listening to life is a lifelong practice and requires cultivating moments of silence.
I heard these questions in moments of hope and despair. These questions created a tingly feeling inside me and I couldn’t resist capturing them. Some of them came through when I was talking to Amanda Tempist Jade recently.