Terri Lonowski — The Maven of Soulful Listening (#156)

When we truly take care of ourselves and become fully present, we bring a quality of grace into every interaction.”

“Recognize that life itself is an incredible gift.  It is a miracle that any of us are here.  Sit with that for a moment.  All of life is at any one moment on the fragile brink of non-existence.  Behold the wonderment in the moment”

-Terri Lonowski

Terri Lonowski earned a M.Ed. in Educational Psychology from the University of Nebraska and has made significant professional contributions throughout her career. These include serving as Chair of the American Counseling Association Foundation (philanthropic branch of the American Counseling Association with membership of over 40,000) and holding a gubernatorial appointment to the Nebraska State Workforce Investment Board.

As an expert consultant on US Department of Labor special projects, Terri has been at the leading edge of innovation, evolving nationwide workforce initiatives. She had the distinct privilege and honor of participating in two events held at The White House, showcasing innovative projects which embraced empathy and Design Thinking (a change management methodology).

She created Soulful Listening™ by incorporating Active Listening and Empathy elements, then added missing pieces, to address communication disconnect in the workplace and in personal relationships. Terri is a practitioner of Soulful Listening™, a Master Facilitator, and highly sought-after national and international speaker.

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  • Who is Jacob Lonowsky and why do you consider him wise?
  • How did Jacob learn to cultivate this wisdom, emotional intelligence, and listening to the inner voice? Was it something you cultivated into him or did he just learn from other places?
  • While growing up, did you suggest Jacob some of the books or resources to learn from? Could you explain on that please?
  • What are the ways to practice and cultivate the relationship of emotional intelligence between a parent and a child?
  • What do you mean by moving body? Do you go to the gym?
  • Could you elaborate on your meditation practice? What does it look like on an everyday basis?
  • How do you process gratitude when it may not flow naturally? And how do you reflect back?
  • In soulful listening, you mentioned that first element is self care, second element is being in the present moment. And what are the other elements?
  • Could you give us a concrete example of practicing empathy? If we are having a conversation dialogue with another person, how can we reflect back to another person that they have been heard? And what they’re telling us is being understood by us? So what is that conversation look like in terms of templates or anything that you might want to share with us?
  • What is the difference between sympathy and empathy?
  • Where do you think people struggle the most in out of these five elements of soulful listening?
  • You participated in two events at the white house under the Obama administration. Could you share more on that project and what was it like to be in the white house?
  • Can you tell us some of the resources about empathy, how we can learn more about empathy and cultivate more of it in our daily lives?
  • Meditation is one of the practices to self-regulate our emotions. So, Terry, do you recommend any other practice to work on our emotions?
  • How do you adjust your life when you move from one place to another place?
  • When you take a particular place to live – do you have certain rules and parameters to feel a sense of belonging? What does it look like to pick a place?
  • What do you mean by behold the wonderment in the moment?
  • How do you personally deal with loneliness if ever you get lonely?
  • Why do you recommend the book The prophet by Kahlil Gibran?
  • What does it mean to have an heart opening essence?
  • and much more

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Cindy Vuu — Meeting with Dalai Lama, Foundation of Happiness, Living a Good Life, Interdependence and Impermanence, and More (#155)

Cindy Vuu — Meeting with Dalai Lama, Foundation of Happiness, Living a Good Life, Interdependence and Impermanence, and More (#155)

The state of mind of the wine drinker has a lot more to do with the enjoyment of the wine than the wine itself.”

-Cindy

Cindy Vuu is the CEO of an 8000 employees company Bitis, it’s a national heritage footwear brand in Vietnam. The brand is so well-known there that nearly all Vietnamese have likely worn Bitis shoes at some point in their lives. Cindy also is known for driving the successful comeback of company amidst the fierce foreign brand competition. Much of this comeback is attributed to the marketing campaign of the Bitis Hunter line in 2017. By collaborating with massive Vietnamese musical artist and promoting a message seeped in mindfulness and connection, the initiative transformed the brand back up to its current top spot as Vietnam’s #1 footwear company.   Cindy is passionate for shoes. She also loves to contribute & create a happy, loving, compassionate and green community.

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  • How do you pronounce your name in Vietnamese?
  • When did he go to Canada to study and what subjects did you study?
  • Why do you recommend these two books – The Art of happiness and Old path white cloud?
  • Could you share a story of your struggle before reading the book – the art of happiness?
  • What did you learn or could you share any conversation with Dalai Lama? And, how did you meet him?
  • Would you mind describing the law of interdependence?
  • Could you describe impermanence and its role in the arena of Buddhism?
  • Your husband died and I’m sorry to hear that. Are you comfortable talking about what happened and how did you deal with the circumstances and grief process?
  • How do you practice unconditional love?
  • Do you have any advice to our listeners to practice unconditional love? How can we practice more of this?
  • Could you guide us about your journaling process? Is it based on some set of questions or free flow?
  • Difference between mindfulness and mindfulness meditation?
  • Could you tell us some of the resources on the internet or in the form of books to really get us started on meditation?
  • The holiness, Dalai Lama says that the purpose of life is to be happy. They have attained that level of enlightenment but for common people like you and me and others, how do we get to that level? Or how do we understand the basic foundation of happiness?
  • What makes a good life? What could be the basics of living a good life?
  • What is it like to live in Vietnam in terms of culture, society, food?
  • You are the CEO of a footwear brand company bitis. And you are talking about the challenges and the fun part. Could you share any example of your recent challenges in this company?
  • Being the CEO of a 8,000 employees company – how did you deal with your own mental health and state of mind during COVID?
  • What are your roles and responsibilities as the CEO? What does a normal day look like in your professional world?
  • What are the misconceptions that people have about the roles and responsibilities of a CEO of a successful company?
  • How do you deal with criticism and negative feedback?
  • What is the right way to give feedback?
  • and much more

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End-of-life Psychedelic Psychotherapy and Psychedelics Awareness

Why am I writing a post on Psychedelics? A good friend Michael Ostrolenk asked me a few months ago — if I wanted to interview William A. Richards (Bill), and my response was hell yeah.

Why am I writing a post on Psychedelics? Let’s rewind and do a quick backstory— my elder brother died in 2014 due to blood cancer when he was 33 years old. In my family, back then, nobody knew about any healing modalities and we were relying only on the medicine. In just 2 months from the diagnosis, my brother died. I have seen tremendous amount of suffering in my family since his death and I take a stand to spread the word about any healing modalities to heal ourselves and support others to heal. We can’t change what we are not aware of.

This is my first attempt to share something on Psychedelics and therefore, keeping it simple and short.

A good friend Michael Ostrolenk asked me a few months ago — if I wanted to interview William A. Richards (Bill), and my response was hell yeah. I literally jumped off of my chair when Bill(he likes to be called by name Bill) said yes to be a guest. We spoke for about 90mins and went into the details of the Psychedelics world, different substances, and Psychedelics assisted therapy, and much more to heal the trauma, anxiety, depression, dying cancer patients and many other ways and areas to incorporate Psychedelics. The podcast episode will be launched very soon.

Updates by 6/28/2021: I sent this post to Bill to review and get the feedback if I misstated anything. Bill is kind enough to review and therefore I’m adding a few more things to help people better understand and attempt to remove any confusion from this post. At some places, you will see a strikethrough text I made after hearing from Bill. Here is a note from Bill’s desk(in italics):


Be careful not to imply that psychedelics “heal dying cancer patients”.  Though it is not impossible that some persons may live longer due to better self-care and more effective immune systems once depression fades, our research to date is focused on quality of life, not quantity.  The goal is to help people “live until they die”.  Also more is needed than “safe environment and container”; those who choose to take psychedelics (legally or illegally) need to be well prepared/educated and attend to both medical and psychological/spiritual considerations.  Some incur a greater degree of risk than others, for example anyone with severe psychological problems/history of psychosis, either personally or in terms of genetics/family history, or people with brain tumors, poorly functioning kidneys, cardiac issues, other medications in one’s system, etc.  There’s a lot we don’t know at this point.

The CBS “60 Minutes” segment isn’t from “when psychedelics were legal”.  They always have been legal in research contexts for investigators with an IND—an Investigational New Drug Permit—from the FDA, which of course we had at the time (1976).  Back when I got involved in Germany in 1963, psychedelics were legal (and relatively unknown)—sent through the mail to interested physicians by Sandoz Pharmaceuticals in Switzerland.  This changed in the late 1960’s when Nixon’s “drug war” was launched, scheduling of drugs was established, and UN treaties were signed.


First thing first — How I got started in Psychedelics? For quite some time, I thought psychedelics isn’t for me. There are so many myths around it and I was trapped in it.

A friend invited me over dinner who is a celebrated person in the space of Human Optimization. He offered me MDMA and my questions were — what do I do with this and what are the benefits? He mentioned — MDMA is a heart opener, develops deep empathy and love for others, and suggested I take it the next morning and go in nature. The next morning, I had no idea what I was getting into. I took the pill with confidence and after about 20 mins, I started seeing my vision bright and I felt deep love for animals and human beings. It was a beautiful different experience. Usually, the MDMA experience (or trip) lasts for about 6 hours(in my experience). Make sure to do your own research before consuming it.

After a few months later, I had another Psychedelic experience using DMT with a trusted friend in a safe setting. Intention setting is important here. My intentions were to visit my childhood trauma and adult romantic relationships.

After my first exposure to MDMA and DMT , I started to realize the healing benefits of Psychedelics. I am an amateur in this space and look up to people who have broad exposure. You get to start with something, right? Please don’t misuse these substances. They are not for everyone. Please make sure that you are in the “safe environment and container”.

Fast forward—In my interview preparation of Bill, I came across this very old video The CBS “60 Minutes” segment (when psychedelics used to be legal) of him administering DPT to the dying cancer patient or you can say end-of-life psychedelic psychotherapy. This video brought me to tears and I couldn’t wait to ask Bill for his permission to publish this video. This is my small attempt to spread the awareness around psychedelics considering its powerful healing nature.

This video depicts Bill assisting a cancer patient.

Here is a short bio of Bill Richards:

William A. Richards (Bill) is a psychologist in the Psychiatry Department of the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, Bayview Medical Center, a consultant/trainer at sites of psychedelic research internationally, a teacher in the Program of Psychedelic Therapy and Research at the California Institute of Integral Studies, and also a clinician in private practice in Baltimore. His graduate degrees include M.Div. from Yale Divinity School, S.T.M. from Andover-Newton Theological School and Ph.D. from Catholic University, as well as studies with Abraham Maslow at Brandeis University and with Hanscarl Leuner at Georg-August University in Göttingen, Germany, where his involvement with psilocybin research originated in 1963.

From 1967 to 1977, he pursued psychotherapy research with LSD, DPT, MDA and  psilocybin at the Maryland Psychiatric Research Center, including protocols designed to investigate the promise of psychedelic substances in the treatment of alcoholism, depression, narcotic addiction and the psychological distress associated with terminal cancer, and also their use in the training of religious and mental-health professionals. From 1977-1981, he was a member of the psychology faculty of Antioch University in Maryland. In 1999 at Johns Hopkins, he and Roland Griffiths launched the rebirth of psilocybin research after a 22 year period of dormancy in the United States. His publications began in 1966 with “Implications of LSD and Experimental Mysticism,” coauthored with Walter Pahnke. His book, Sacred Knowledge: Psychedelics and Religious Experiences was released in English by Columbia University Press in 2015 and has since been translated into 6 additional languages—hopefully more coming.

IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: These plants and compounds are illegal in many countries, and even possession can carry severe criminal penalties. None of this post constitutes medical advice or should be construed as a recommendation to use psychedelics. There are serious legal, psychological, and physical risks. Psychedelics are not for everyone—they can exacerbate certain emotional problems, and there have been, in very rare cases, fatalities.


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Debbie Millman on Deep Relationships, Creativity and Growth, The Importance of Therapy, Hope and Resilience, and More (#154)

Expect anything worthwhile to take a long time.”

-Debbie

Debbie Millman : Named “one of the most creative people in business” by Fast Company, and “one of the most influential designers working today” by Graphic Design USA, Debbie Millman is also an author, educator, curator and host of the podcast Design Matters. As the founder and host of Design Matters, one of the world’s first and longest running podcasts, Millman has interviewed nearly 500 artists, designers and cultural commentators over the past 14 years. Debbie has interviewed guests including Tim Ferriss, Malcolm Gladwell, Marina Abramovic, Steven Pinker, Shepard Fairey, Laurie Anderson, Barbara Kruger, Amanda Palmer, Alain de Botton, Brene Brown, Hamilton Director Thomas Kail, and many, many more.

Debbie is the author of six books, including two collections of interviews that have extended the ethos and editorial vision of Design Matters to the printed page: How to Think Like a Great Graphic Designer and Brand Thinking and Other Noble Pursuits. Both books have been published in over 10 languages. She is the author of two books of illustrated essays: Look Both Ways and Self-Portrait As Your Traitor; the latter of which has been awarded a Gold Mobius, a Print Typography Award, and a medal from the Art Directors Club. Her artwork from these books have been included in the Boston Biennale, Chicago Design Museum, Anderson University, School of Visual Arts, Long Island University, The Wolfsonion Museum, the Czong Institute for Contemporary Art and more.

Debbie’s illustrations have appeared in publications such as The New York Times, New York Magazine, Print Magazine, Design Observer and Fast Company.  In 2009 Debbie co-founded the world’s first graduate program in branding at the School of Visual Arts in New York City. Now in its ninth year, the program has achieved international acclaim.

Debbie is currently working with Law & Order SVUactor and activist Mariska Hargitay’s Joyful Heart Foundation to eradicate sexual assault, domestic violence, child abuse and the rape-kit backlog.

Her new book Why Design Matters: Conversations with the World’s Most Creative People is available to preorder on Amazon.

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  • You graduated in 1983, and you were majored in English and you had a minor in Russian literature. So I want to ask you, did you speak Russian or did you write or both?
  • What do you love about Russian literature?
  • How have you stayed in your team in 2020 during coronavirus? How were you hopeful in 2020?
  • Do you still have the dog Duff?
  • Whenever challenges come in our life. How do you cultivate the art of being thankful and grateful? Does it come naturally to you or do you have to practice on a constant basis?
  • What makes a good therapist and what is your relationship with therapy these days?
  • What is it that resonate with you the most with your therapy?
  • What is your frequency of visiting your therapist per week per month?
  • At what point did you realize that you needed to work on yourself in terms of emotional wellbeing or working with a therapist?
  • Did you ask your friend that what makes others or him feel jealous of you?
  • Do you have any advice or recommendation for somebody who is afraid of finding a therapist or seeking therapy to uncover the layers in their life?
  • What does your self-talk look like whenever you go through those obstacles? What do you tell yourself?
  • What are your practices to be optimistic, hopeful, and resilient?
  • How would you spouse Roxanne gay would describe of what do you do for a living.
  • What were your first few days of dating with Roxanne like?
  • How did you ask her for the first date? What did you tell her to go on a first date with you?
  • How do you find balance between showing your masculinity at your workplace and being feminine in your personal life, in your relationship, in your romantic relationship?
  • how do you communicate your differences or unpleasant emotions and feelings with your partner? If that happens?
  • Do you have any process or mental framework to process your grief or sadness?
  • Could you share any good memories from your childhood?
  • You got remarried in 2020, what does this love feel like to you in your fifties?
  • What do you think makes a great relationship work? (compatibility)
  • How do you create that white space in your everyday life to be more creative and seek joy and fulfillment?
  • What kind of practices do you have in your everyday life to seek joy, fulfillment fun? What concrete practices do you have?
  • What is the most important aspect for someone’s growth and creativity?
  • Do you ever fear of not being able to repeat your success?
  • What is your emotional critical need in the upcoming years? What do you think you are most excited about?
  • and much more

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Esther Perel — Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

The real questions are these: Can we have love and desire in the same relationship over time? How? What exactly would that kind of relationship be?

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. 

– Esther Perel

I’m a huge fan of Esther Perel ‘s work. Her book Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence is a must read for anyone single, already in relationship, or anyone in between. This book clearly explains how to create different levels of “Intimacy” and “Desire”. Desire is different from “Wanting”. You can’t desire what you already have. This book has been the revelation for me to understand the significance of separateness to create desire. Too much closeness can dissipate the desire. I think “too much” of anything isn’t good in any area of life. Too much of closeness in a relationship can cause temporary boredom. We get to learn to dance between separateness and closeness.

I contacted Esther’s team to get the permission to publish 300 words from the book Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence so that I can spread the word and help people build a deep meaningful relationships and desire for more. We need to learn the fundamentals and philosophy to enter into relationships or enhance our existing relationships. As Esther says — “The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.

For folks who don’t know Esther, she is a Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author. Recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (HarperCollins). Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin

Here is a short summary from the book:

“As a couple’s therapist, I have inverted the usual therapeutic priorities. In my field, we are taught to inquire about the state of the union first and then ask how this is manifested in the bedroom. Seen this way, the sexual relationship is a metaphor for the overall relationship. The underlying assumption is that if we can improve the relationship, the sex will follow. But in my experience, this is often not the case.

The real questions are these: Can we have love and desire in the same relationship over time? How? What exactly would that kind of relationship be?

The challenge for modern couples lies in reconciling the need for what is safe and predictable with the wish to pursue what is exciting, mysterious, and awe-inspiring.

Seeking excitement in the same relationship in which we establish permanence is a tall order. Unfortunately, too many love stories develop in such a way that we sacrifice passion as to achieve stability.

Modern life has deprived us of our traditional resources, and has created a situation in which we turn to one person for the protection and emotional connections that as multitude of social networks used to provide. Adult intimacy has become overburdened with expectations.

If we are to maintain desire with one person over time, we must be able to bring a sense of unknown into a familiar space. In the words of Proust, “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes”.

I had long assumed about the correlation between intimacy and sexuality. Rather than looking at sex as an exclusive outgrowth of the emotional relationship, I have come to see it as a separate entity. Sexuality is more than a metaphor for the relationship – it stands on its own as a parallel narrative.”

If you’re intrigued by this reading, get the book Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, or at least check her blogs and resource here.

Also, check out her Intimacy Inventory to journal: https://thestateofaffairs.estherperel.com/intimacy-inventory/


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Sarah Sarkis on Mastery, Psychological Flexibility, Emotional Skills and Self-Regulation Practices, Relationship with Risk, Sense of Wellness, and More (#153)

“The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear.”

-Rumi

Sarah Sarkis’s introduction in her own words:

I received my MA from Boston College where I studied Counseling Psychology. I then began my doctoral training at George Washington University with an emphasis on Adult Psychotherapy from a psychoanalytic perspective. Upon completion of my doctoral studies, I completed my internship and post-doctoral fellowship training at two inpatient psychiatric hospitals in the Boston area. There, I worked with people who were suffering from the most severe and retractable forms of mental illness.

Those experiences taught me the deep and enduring value of comprehensive and collaborative care from a multi-disciplinary perspective. I carry those lessons with me to my current work in my private practice, where I emphasize and utilize my partnerships with physicians, naturopaths, and functional medicine doctors and nutritionists to provide the best standard of care. In addition to my psychology training, I’ve studied extensively the use of mindfulness, functional medicine, hormones, and how food, medicine, and mood are interconnected.

My influences include Dr.’s Hyman, Benson, Kabat-Zinn, Maté, Gervais, and Gordon, as well as Tara Brach, Brené Brown, Irvin Yalom, Howard Stern, Steven Kotler, and Bruce Springsteen, to name only a few.

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  • About the book Mastery
  • What kind of values do you talk about with your son? Or what kind of conversations do you have with your son to inculcate all these practices?
  • Learning from modeling others
  • Turning pain into energy, turn fear into energy because cause life will cripple you if you don’t.
  • Could you share any memorable story from your teenage years or anything that comes to your mind?
  • Describing about her Junior high school headmaster
  • Did you ever talk about your disengagement and your attitude in your family?
  • How do you appreciate and encourage your son because you definitely didn’t grow up in that environment?
  • What is your personal relationship with risk now?
  • In 2016 and 2016, what moved you to take risks and changes?
  • Did you always want to be a clinical psychologist or what events were leading up to that?
  • What set of emotional skills do you teach or recommend to them to master certain areas of their lives?
  • Could you recommend us some concrete practices in the umbrella of self regulation and mindfulness?
  • Diaphragmatic breathing, Mindfulness, Sleep
  • How do I observe myself? What should I do?
  • How to sit in meditation and observe your Revelations with yourself
  • I would love to ask you about your personal practices in the umbrella of mindfulness and self-regulation
  • What kind of questions do you ask yourself at this moment in your life, at present in your life?
  • What does a sense of wellness look like to you personally?
  • Listening to pain
  • What are the healthy ways to cope with pain and unpleasant emotions and how do you deal with it? How do you process these emotional patterns in your life?
  • On getting good sleep and its benefits and  relationship with sleep
  • Somebody is not sure how to tackle all this problems. Should they go to a therapist, to a performance coach, to a flow coach? Where should people go?
  • Could you share what is flow? How do they get into flow?
  • Do you live your life by any quote or any life philosophy?
  • What is the specific impact to you on to leave on this world?
  • and much more

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A Letter from My Older Self to Current Self

One morning over a cup of coffee in one hand and pen in another hand, I allowed the pen to flow on paper as if my older self—my 40 year old is sitting with me and trying to sooth and advice my current self. This short piece of exercise gave me deep satisfaction and peace deep within. This journaling exercise can be done over and over whenever you feel distracted in life, need a pause in life, or as a self-reflection.

One morning over a cup of coffee in one hand and pen in another hand, I allowed the pen to flow on paper as if my older self—my 40 year old is sitting with me and trying to sooth and advice my current self. This short piece of exercise gave me deep satisfaction and peace deep within. This journaling exercise can be done over and over whenever you feel distracted in life, need a pause in life, or as a self-reflection.

The prompt is “Imagine that you’re suddenly the older version of you — 5, 10, or 15 years in the future. If you sat down over wine or coffee with the current, younger you, what advice or observations might you offer?”

This prompt is part of Tim Ferriss’s blog A Dialogue with Yourself. I also mentioned about post A Dialogue with Yourself in my Friday Newsletter.

Here comes my journaling. I’m sharing this with you as an example. You can read this and think about your older self and imagine what he or she would say to your current self in your present life situations. While doing this, don’t think too much—Just let the words flow and you will meet with your older wiser self. Trust me.

Here you go!

“Advice to myself – my current self from the future 40-year-old self.

I am proud of you, my younger Nishant. You embarked on this journey of discovering yourself, healing yourself, and others. I know that you have always wanted to have a beautiful loving romantic relationship. Just be patient. You will get it. Great things are waiting for you. I see that how you sometimes get discouraged, and feel the scarcity. It is ok. It is part of process.

I am happy to see that how far you have come in just 3-4 years. Just know that you are capable of so much and you know it deep down. I am glad that you are recognizing childhood issues and how that created anxiousness, lack of confidence and self-image in you up until you were 30 years old.

Be patient with the progress. Have fun and play in this process. You are not getting any younger – just joking! Just keep doing what excites you.

Yes, self-doubts are going to creep in. That also means—you are on the path.

The choices you are making now are helping you for your future self. I am your future older self—writing to you this letter. Do you want your future self to be cranky and purposeless? Think about what you want your future self to be.

I know that you think a lot about finding ways to heal your parents. It is not going to be easy. You are going to be tested and I know you can do this.

Love is waiting for you that you have craved for so long. Your unmet needs are going to fulfill. Just keep moving forward with trust and I will meet you when you become me—the older, the future and wiser self of you.”


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This show is about helping you live a fulfilled life and my job on this show is to sit with the world class experts to extract the practices, routines and habits to help you live a fulfilled and abundant life. For any question, please contact me.

If you have enjoyed listening to my podcasts, please subscribe to the new podcast updates on Itunes please provide your reviews on Itunes which will really help me. Subscribe to the Newsletter. You won’t be spammed! I hate spams too! You will receive only one email every Friday on the latest published podcasts.

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Jeremy Hunter on The Quality of Life and Attention, Meaningful and Engaged Life, Why Moments Matter, Japan Bathing Culture, and More (#152)

“I tell my Japanese friends all the time, you can’t digitize a bathtub.”

“Use your daily life as a place of practice.”

“You cannot manage other people unless you manage yourself first.”

-Jeremy

Jeremy Hunter, PhD is the great-grandson of a sumo wrestler. He serves as the Founding Director of the Executive Mind Leadership Institute as well as Associate Professor of Practice at the Peter F. Drucker Graduate School of Management. For over a decade, he has helped leaders develop themselves while retaining their humanity in the face of monumental change and challenge. He created and teaches The Executive Mind, a series of demanding and transformative executive education programs. They are dedicated to Drucker’s assertion that “You cannot manage other people unless you manage yourself first.”

He co-leads the Leading Mindfully Executive Education program at the University of Virginia’s Darden School of Business. He has designed and led leadership development programs for a wide variety of organizations, including Fortune 200 aerospace, Fortune 50 banking and finance, accounting, the arts and civic non-profits. Program impacts have lead to both positive professional, personal and financial outcomes for participants. Past participants have worked to create a “culture of calm” resulting in more effective team performance as well as creating better firm-wide solutions. They were better able to focus on their priorities, connect with team members, and focus on larger strategic priorities. They learned to control emotions they previously thought not possible to do. For example, better-managed reactions with a volatile client saved an aerospace executive an estimated $700,000 in unexercised contract clauses. Participants also reported a higher quality of sleep as well as greater peace of mind and enhanced ability to enjoy their lives.

Hunter has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, The Economist, The Financial Times, the Los Angeles Times and National Public Radio’s Morning Edition. He has been voted Professor of the Year five times. His work is informed by the experience of living day-to-day for 17 years with a potentially terminal illness. When faced with the need for life-saving surgery more than a dozen former students came forward as organ donors.

Dr. Hunter received his Ph.D. from University of Chicago, under the direction of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, author of Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience. He also holds a degree in Public Policy from the Kennedy School of Government at Harvard University, and in East Asian Studies from Wittenberg University. He relishes Chinese dumplings and obsesses about modern architecture. He and his wife and son dutifully serve two housecats who live in Los Angeles. He is a contributor to Mindful.com, He was featured in the article “Why Mindfulness Matters.”

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Book Mentioned: The Lady and the Monk: Four Seasons in Kyoto

People Mentioned:

Show Notes:

  • What is your connection with Japan?
  • What does it feel like to be in Japan?
  • Japan as a culture has incorporated beauty and aesthetic.
  • You mentioned about the qualities that you see in Japan. What are those qualities, if you could name some of them and what differentiates between living in Japan versus living in different parts of the world?
  • Real tension between how do you ground yourself in your reality when a digital reality can take you anywhere
  • Asian parents have certain expectations from their children that you have to be successful, you have to be this way or that way. What was your relationship with your parents?
  • Could you describe what is bathing culture?
  • What do you feel after that hot bat in terms of psychological, physiological benefits?
  • What were studying in Japan in 1990s?
  • What does quality of life mean to you? How do you define it for yourself?
  • Could you paint this picture of your relationship with your son?
  • Did your parents and elders talk to you about present moment awareness?
  • At the age of nine, what kind of meditation you started with?
  • After you got diagnosed with terminal illness, what changes did you make after that in your inner and outer world to just move forward with positivity or something like that?
  • There is a certain gift in knowing at an early age that your time is finite and that really clarifies what is important and that goes back to attention.
  • What do you mean by escaping their life in the context of meditation?
  • What practices do you suggest or recommend to leaders and executives you work with?
  • Changing the narration and stories to create the desired outcome
  • Cultivate a relationship with what’s beautiful in your life and  intentionally look for sources of beauty
  • How did you personally learn to cultivate the art of looking the beauty or looking at the source of beauty in turbulent times?
  • what do you tell yourself during the times of fear? If so, what does your inner conversation sound like?
  • Cold shower benefits –  your nervous system needs a kind of periodic shock
  • What questions, what life philosophy questions would you encourage people to ask?
  • What is most important to you in the next phase of your life?
  • How have your personal relationship with your wife has changed or transformed or gotten better?
  • What would you say to your 18 year old about how to live life?
  • and much more

Resources that helped me in the interview preparation:

The Nishant Garg Show:

This show is about helping you live a fulfilled life and my job on this show is to sit with the world class experts to extract the practices, routines and habits to help you live a fulfilled and abundant life. For any question, please contact me.

If you have enjoyed listening to my podcasts, please subscribe to the new podcast updates on Itunes please provide your reviews on Itunes which will really help me. Subscribe to the Newsletter. You won’t be spammed! I hate spams too! You will receive only one email every Friday on the latest published podcasts.

If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in growing this little show. I also love reading reviews! Instructions are: a)If you’re on an iPhone, simply scroll down to “Reviews” inside the Podcasts app. b) If you’re on a desktop, click on “Listen on Apple Podcasts” under “The Nishant Garg Show.” Once inside iTunes, click on “Ratings and Reviews” and you’re set.