Make your amends with adversaries.
The simple formula to attain peace and happiness is forgiveness.
By radiating the forgiving energy outward, you will find the positive respectful energy flowing back towards you. Try to be big enough to make amends, replace the energy of anger, bitterness, and tension with love and kindness — even if you still insist that you’re right.
Take a moment right here and now to simply face that person who stands out in your mind as someone you hurt, or directed hurt to you, and tell him or her that you would like to make amends. You will notice that how much better you feel. The good feeling of having cleared the air is self-respect.
It takes much more courage, strength of character, and inner conviction to make amends than it does to hang on to the low-energy feelings.
Yes, I am talking about forgiveness because it starts the process of peace, self-realization, divinity, and your connection to the higher self.
Whenever I have an inner conflict with anyone, I send them peace and blessings in my heart. A few years ago, I had a similar situation with a close friend. I kept sending her peace and blessings, and it totally relieved me and made our relationship to the next level.
Forgiveness can buy you peace of mind and get you rid of anger and hate. Forgiveness is simply letting go. Forgiving someone who hurt you, left you, did all the wrong things — may not be easy. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget their actions though. However, if you practice forgiveness, you will find yourself free from the burden of having venom pumping through the veins.
This is what I say — “I forgive you and I’m sorry for all the evil thoughts I have directed towards you, and I take my curses back”.
Our thoughts and souls are colorless but still we judge others. Forgiveness is an act of the heart.
Look past the skin and see the unfolding of God/Universe/Higher Power in everyone.
Forgive all those people whom you hate or have internal conflicts with. Forgive them in your heart. You don’t have to make a declaration in the world — just forgive them in your heart. I’ve forgiven everyone I had a conflict with in the past in school, university, and even after that.
What are you holding on? What’s stopping you to forgive?
To every sincere apology, there’s a genuine forgiveness. Forgiveness starts the process of reconciliation. Forgiveness will create space in your heart and soul for the bigger purpose in life. When I forgave the wrongdoings of all those people who showed up in my past, I could see my life shaping into a better future.
For a very long period, I hold on to the negative feelings, hurt and resentments in my heart towards all those people who teased me, bullied me and betrayed me in the past. The more I hated them, the more I felt pain. It was about 4 years ago when I started to forgive all of them, and I started seeing things positively with more love towards others and myself.
Do you still have hate and resentment for “anybody” in life? Do their thoughts haunt you and make you feel bitter? Are you still carrying anger in your heart?
Resentment is like — “drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies”.
No matter how much hate you encounter in your life towards you. Don’t let it get to your nerves and just send them love, peace, and wishes. I am telling you — your heart will be filled with love. This is not going to be easy and will take time and practice. You are doing this for yourself and not for anyone else.
Just say loudly in your heart —“There are no justified resentments”. Resentment is like venom that continues to pour through your system, doing its poisonous damage long after being bitten by the snake. It’s not the bite that kills you — it’s the venom. Send love(in your spirit) and compassion in some form to those you feel have wronged you and notice how much better you feel.
Forgiveness opens the doors of new possibilities of love, compassion, and a sense of spiritual power of letting go of feelings of hatred awakens within you.
Every self-help learning starts with the power of forgiveness. Start with forgiving yourself first. Love thyself. You are a wholehearted and a divine creature. Truly accept yourself and embrace all the imperfections. When you do not forgive yourself — it is your “ego” separating you from your spirit.
Forgiving others does not mean that you justify and accept their actions and behavior. You also do not have to forget what they did to you. However, you can come from a place of maturity and choose to let go of hate and release the burden of negativity which is holding you back in life.
When people don’t forgive, it starts to wear on their face. They look older than they are. They feel miserable and unhappy.
Forgiveness comes from a place of real power and it takes conscious practice. Sometimes it is hard when the hurt is deeply rooted. Forgiveness is a conscious choice. I know it is not easy and can be hard, and it is 100% possible.
People might think when you forgive someone for their wrongdoings — you are justifying their behavior and actions and giving them power and control.
When you forgive, you really drop the weight of hurt, anger, and frustration. When people don’t want to forgive, they feel that they are losing control, giving up on their power, and that starts to have resentment and bitterness about that person. They see the world bitterly. They might think everybody is the same and can have trust issues.
4 years ago, I really struggled to forgive my ex-girlfriend. It was difficult for me as I was full of hurt and it was affecting my relationships with other people. When I practiced forgiving her, I felt emotionally lighter and dropped the weight of frustration that I was carrying for the last couple of years.
There are two ways to practice forgiveness:
- Reaching out to people and literally tell them “I forgive you for whatever you did or said”.
- Practicing internal forgiveness in your heart. Just pray for those people who did hurt or were not good to you, and just silently forgive them.
This is a process and won’t be easy in the beginning. I personally have experienced major breakthroughs in tiny moments. I hope you are able to let go of anything you are holding onto. Life really looks different when you try to live from the clean past. Keep trying!
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