Have Patience with yourself!

Patience is really a virtue and so many people are suffering through this disease of impatience.

How poor are they that have no Patience- Shakespeare

Why are some people so impatient?

If you are one of them- have you ever asked yourself, “why am I so impatient?”.

You might be patient in some areas of life, but impatient in some other neglected areas.

What is it that you are doing to be patient in some areas? Do you want to be patient in those neglected areas?

Impatience can cause fear, stress and discouragement.

Impatience arises when we want to achieve something quicker in life.

You may see some successful people showing up on social media and think of their success as overnight. Let me tell you that any success is never overnight. Successful people have already spent days, months and years to achieve their dreams to get things and to be where they are now.

Success in any field always depends on PATIENCE.

When you work on a challenging goal, not all your strategies are going to work in one time and failure is common. You must be patient and keep moving.

Impatience for a short period of time is OK because it helps you to think about your approach in life.

But you can’t afford to be impatient always.

You have to have patience with yourself and you have to have patience with others as well.

While driving, I observe that some people are rushing so much and that tells me about their impatience behavior. Some people just keep honking just to get ahead. When I observe this behavior, that makes me think that driving impatiently is one of the reasons for road Rashes.

Impatience is usually the result of the fear we have in our mind and heart.

When we are in the fearful state, we are in an illusion to do something and that does not end well.

There was one area where I was impatient some 5 years ago, and that was my relationship with the ex-girlfriend. I was living in fear and always questioned- what if she leaves me? What if she does this and that?

Over the period, I have gained so much confidence and patience with myself and others.

How I became patient?

I read books on how to be patient.

When we are in the impatient mode, we tend to do things quickly. Doing things quickly may not end well.

“Desire to have things done quickly, prevents their being done thoroughly.”- Confucius.

Whenever I get impatient with anything, I just ask myself- “what is my purpose and mission in life? Why am I here”. I shift the focus from impatience to something meaningful in life.

During impatient times, I also think of nature, its plant and the trees. I just sit on my patio and look at the trees and plants. It gives me feeling that “nature reveals its secrets at its own time”. However, you rush to make a tree grow, it doesn’t work that way.

Then, why are we so impatient?

Patience is simply having faith without any doubt that things will work out soon.

When we become so much patient with ourselves, we just know that things will work out in the future, even though they are not working now.

My spiritual guru Wayne Dyer always said- “Infinite patience creates immediate results”.

Some time ago, I was working on some important project that I really love. Sometimes, I felt the need to rush things and I could notice the clouds of Impatience over my head. I was trying to finish off things quickly, and later I realized that the completed things were not completed the way I wanted to be.

My heartbeat was getting faster due to impatience.

I just closed my eyes and started meditation for 2 mins, “release, release, let go, let go”.

I have learned a lot of patience in the last 2 years. I can clearly say at this point in life that I am being patient with myself and others. 

When I see impatient behavior in others, I simply say Thank you to God and the universe, to give me the wisdom of being patient.

Whenever I feel impatience, I do this

• Think about the times in the past when I achieved goals by being patient.
• Close my eyes and think about my purpose and mission in life.
• Think about the trees and plants.
• Think about someone who faced bodily injury and they recovered in days and months, no matter how soon they wanted that to be recovered.